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Aug 28, 2010

Threesome and Swinging Help

How To Bring Up Threesomes And Swinging With Your Partner

It’s the question asked ‘round the world, by men and women everywhere, how can I talk to my partner about…(fill in the blank with some sort of open marriage revolving thing.) It’s no wonder, with the near universal yearning for variety, and that often bubbling below the surface desire to see your partner with another man/woman, that this question is so popular.

Those of us who are actually swingers, and have experienced the fun and excitement of threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes are treated as though we may have found the Holy Grail, and are inundated with variants on the above. What follows will be an attempt to give you a “get the ball rolling” sort of path to jump on. A lot here depends on you, and your partner, and you should be ever so cautious here at the beginning, ‘cuz it can easily feel as though you’ve wandered off the map, and thar be monstars in the unknown. Haven’t scared you off, have I?

No? Good. ‘Cuz you want to know a secret? Threesomes and swinging are really awesome.

Communicating With Your Partner About A Threesome

I feel they’re just about the most fun you can have without breaking anything but obscure old blue laws. Before we get to the “getting your partner to do” anything, we need to talk about fundamentally the most important part of this process. Communication. Period. If fantasy isn’t something you’re able to talk to your partner about, you probably need to hold off on the graduate level sexuality and focus on some remedial stuff first. Because the place you want to start with the threesome/swinger talk is with fantasy. Why? Well, if you’ve got a good solid relationship that can share fantasies and new ideas, you’ll probably be able to have the all important “sharing is caring” conversation. You also ought to be somewhat experimental in order to pull this one off. And not just you, the BOTH of you. If it’s missionary with the lights off every night, this might not be the time. (Not that there’s anything wrong with missionary with the lights off, in fact, missionary is one of my favorite positions. I love being able to look my lovers in the eyes.) So, if you feel you have good communication, and you may be more advanced than vanilla folk (you know, maybe vanilla bean, or vanilla with sprinkles) then it’s time to start playing with the fantasy.

Getting The Ball Rolling

Start non-specific, when my wife and I began the discussion, it was as simple as hot sexy talk, during the act, which of our friends would you bave sex with, who do you find hot, what’s your type, etc. These things are rarely discussed in a marriage, or a long term relationship, especially the “what’s your type” conversation, because married people like to assume they’re their partner’s type. (Not always the case, exceptions are often made for the spousal type.) Work this into your sex play, your discussions. Notice reactions when you do so. If your wife blanches at the idea of having another imaginary woman in bed, it’s doubtful she’d be up for having a flesh and blood real live girl lying next to her as well. It’s also important not to take fantasy acceptance as a green light. Really, it’s best to look at these stages as red and yellow lights. When you encounter a red light, you need to step back a bit, and run at it again. If you continually encounter red lights, and swinging or threesomes is extremely important to you, well, you have to decide if it’s a deal breaker or not. Now, if you’re getting yellow lights the whole way down, you’re likely to be sitting pretty before long.

Once the fantasy is out there, it’s likely to come up again. After a particularly hot lovemaking session where you’ve brought your best friend imaginarily into the bedroom to play the old fingercuffs game with your wife, there’s a good chance she’ll come up to you later, (sometimes as soon as in the shower immediately afterwards) and ask “wow, that was hot, where the hell did that come from?” A lot can be judged in the tone of this question. And tone can be the difference between yellow light and red light. If your partner doesn’t ask about it, or bring it up at all, or try to insert it into your NEXT lovemaking session, you shouldn’t read that as stop, just that they may be shy, or conflicted about their feelings on it. In any case, this is where that communication thing comes into play.

Why Communication Is So Important

Remember how EVERYBODY EVER has said that communication is the secret to a good relationship. Well, it’s also the secret to getting anywhere with the swinging conversation. If you can’t ask for something, you can’t do it. If your spouse doesn’t bring up that unique new fantasy or roleplay you guys did, well the onus is on you to do so. So suck it up and talk about it. It’s in this conversation where you need to have “the talk.”

Not the “when a man and a woman love each other very much” talk. The “it would be possible for me to be sexually attracted to another person” talk. And this is often the hardest conversation for people to have these days. Our entire society seems to scream that your relationship is bad if you have any attraction or wanderlust toward anyone other than your spouse for your entire life. (Well, except for all the cheaters, and divorcees, and…well, everybody who just won’t admit it.) So, take your deep breath and jump into the cold water. If you’re gonna be asking the question “do you ever think about being with another person?” know that your partner may think it’s a trap, so be ready with your “cuz I do sometimes, but I think it’d be super hot to do it with you.” (Don’t feel the need to use phrases like that which sound like they come straight from the pages of Dynamite Magazine for teens.)

This is the money point here. Especially with a threesome, it’s REALLY easy for it to appear that you’re just a guy who wants to have sex with two girls. Sorry for the crudity there, but it’s the truth. It’s why I never asked for a threesome. Because I failed to see what might be in it for her. This was before I knew that my wife harbored secret bisexual fantasies (see, lack of communication!) so I wasn’t able to suggest how hot it’d be for me to see her with another girl without risking triggering her defense mechanisms.

What To Talk About And When To Talk About It

In a healthy sexual relationship, we all have the desire to fulfill our partners fantasies, or to at least take them as close to the edge as we’re willing to go. So when your partner comes to you and says “darling, I’d love to see you fuck another person, it’d make me sooo hot!” well you at least consider whether or not you might be able to make that fantasy come true. The key point here is that threesomes and swinging shouldn’t be a “let’s try something new this weekend for my birthday, for our anniversary, for Arbor Day” conversation. It should be an ongoing discussion, with at least a few days between start and finish, but preferably, a couple weeks to allow the idea to really sink in. Especially with all the tertiary issues that can crop up, chief among them being jealousy, but also STI and pregnancy risk, the lunacy that can come from adding another person to a relationship, and so many more things that can broadside you because you hadn’t even considered them.

Now, if you’ve had these conversations and fantasies, and talked about what you’re interested in, well then, that sounds like a green light and permission to launch. Next stop, open relationship town. But that’s a whole other discussion, and that’s for next time.

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Aug 26, 2010

Do Girls Like Porn

What Kind Of Porn Do Girls Like?

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Hot Threesome

Enjoy this HOT Threesome... both the babes are so hot that the guy is getting confused who to eat 1st.

You would love the facial expressions of the 1st gal, sure she was having a sexy time

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Aug 22, 2010



To masturbate is defined in my dictionary as "to fondle one's own genitals, or those of someone else, to cause sexual pleasure". Or to put it another way, masturbation is about touching yourself, maybe just your genitals or maybe also other parts of your body, to experience sexual stimulation or an orgasm. Masturbation normally involves using mainly your hands, but can also involve using a sex toy such as a dildo. It is often something we do on our own, whether we are in a sexual relationship or not, but it also has an important function within relationships which we talk about later on.

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First off, despite all the myths that still seem to be hanging around even in the 21st Century, masturbation is completely healthy. It will not hurt your body or mind in any way to masturbate either on a regular basis or just once in a while. During the Victorian period in Europe, but also worldwide in other cultural and religious contexts, masturbation has been seen as a bad thing, something to be forbidden. And although some people may still hold this belief, it is not based on any facts. You may or may not agree with masturbation, but whatever your opinion, it will not hurt you.Masturbation does not harm your mental abilities nor does it shrink your genitals. It is a normal sexual behavior in humans.

In terms of occurrence, most of us masturbate, whether we are male or female. Alfred Kinsey, an important sexologist in the US during the 1940s and 1950s, found that 95% of males and 85% of females masturbated. His study is a quite few decades old now and those numbers will probably have increased even further with less sexual repression in the Western world. Again, masturbation is a normal sexual behavior which most of us enjoy.

People vary greatly in how often they masturbate. As you can see from the figures above, a few people do not masturbate at all. Some people masturbate on a monthly basis and others do it every day. All are OK - and normal. People in their teens and early twenties probably masturbate the most (even several times a day).

Masturbation for Men

Masturbation is a normal part of your sex life even if you are in a relationship. Additionally, masturbation can have an important aspect for men: enjoying the sense of touching your penis and testicles and experiencing different types of stimulation can help you to find out what you enjoy sexually. Then you'll be able to ask for the same thing from your partner in a sexual relationship. When you masturbate, enjoy the freedom to touch yourself in any way that feels good. You can listen to your body and let yourself be guided by pleasant sexual sensations. This can also help you to learn more about the rhythm of your body. You can experiment with images in your mind or sexual fantasies to see what is erotic for you.

Allowing yourself time and going slowly when you masturbate will help you to identify different levels of excitement in your body. You can use masturbation to learn to control the point at which you ejaculate. Do it slowly and get a feel for when you might go beyond the "point of no return". Being able to control your ejaculation will probably give you a lot of self-confidence as a lover. Also, when you go slowly, more sexual tension and semen will build up in your body, and your ejaculation and orgasm will be stronger and more satisfying when you do let go. Masturbation is the ideal means of getting to know your body and exploring your sexuality.

Additionally, masturbation is an important aspect of treatment for sexual difficulties. The sex therapists talk of "'masturbatory exercises" for men with problems aroundpremature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. In both cases it's important to masturbate slowly to get to know your body and sexual reactions.

Masturbation for Women

Although women tend to masturbate less than men, it seems to me we need it more! It is an ideal way of getting to know your body, enjoying sexual sensations and finding out what kind of stimulation you really enjoy. Maybe because our genitals are less accessible then men's, many women don't tend to explore themselves in their teens. However, women's needs for sexual stimulation are often more complex than men's. What works for one woman may not work for another, or may only work at certain points in time. Masturbation gives you the chance to explore slowly, carefully and attentively your sexual anatomy. You can safely find out how it feels to be touched in certain ways. For your exploration you may use your fingers or a sex toy such as a dildo or a vibrator. It's also helpful to use some lubricant or oil to minimize friction and to maximize erotic sensations.

Allow yourself to masturbate slowly and really listen to what your body is telling you. You can let your mind wander and develop sexual fantasies or images to explore what turns you on. Once you know what you enjoy sexually it will be possible to share that information with a partner -and you can ask for exactly what you want. When you don't know yourself, it's impossible to ask for what you want. If you want to read up on developing your sexuality as a woman, I suggest reading Deborah Sundahl's book "Female Ejaculation and the G-spot," published in 2003 by Hunter House Publishers. Whether you get into the idea of female ejaculation or not, Sundahl is very good at supporting women who want to explore themselves lustfully.

Masturbation for Couples

Masturbation can have an important part to play in a couple's sex life. You have a partner? Fine - you can still masturbate! You may always keep some space in your sexuality just for yourself and masturbate when you're alone. However, masturbation is also very helpful when two partners have different levels of sex drive. For example, when one partner is just interested in a cuddle, but the other wants more, it is OK to negotiate for a cuddle, while the partner with the higher sex drive enjoys masturbation to an orgasm (if that's what he/she wants) in the other's presence with or without a little help from the partner. This allows both partners to get some of what they want and stops them feeling sexually frustrated or pressurized to have sex. It is a sign of familiarity and ease when partners are able to comfortably masturbate in front of each other. It can be an important way of taking responsibility for your own sexual needs without requiring your partner to satisfy you each and every time!

Masturbation may also be an option when you both want sex but you're too tired for anything energetic. Mutual masturbation, where both partners stimulate each other, or just masturbating in your partner's presence, can be a relaxed way of releasing some sexual tension. Masturbating together can also simply be a way of having fun or changing your sexual routine. The fact is, mutual masturbation can be a very intense experience and it's in no way second best after intercourse. It can help couples to chill out about sexual performance and expected routines. It can be especially liberating for men who experience performance anxiety, premature ejaculation or erectile difficulties.

Masturbation for Gays and Lesbians

If you're in a homosexual relationship, masturbation will probably already be rather important in your sexual repertoire, which is great! You may have an advantage there over heterosexual couples, who may feel more inhibited by the sexual norms of society. Within your relationship, allow yourself to really explore masturbation and all it has to offer to both of you, whether you are masturbating together or separately. It can be an important part of your sex life and may be much more stimulating and sexy than what the average heterosexual couple's doing in bed.

To get the most from it, take your time to explore yourself and your partner. The slower you go, the more time you give yourself to pick up nuances of sexual feelings and bodily sensations. This will help develop the lustful side of your sexuality and strengthen your overall connection with your body. It is important that you affirm your sexuality as being as valid, enjoyable and sexy as anybody else's.

Some programs for sexual improvement which we recommend:

Women: Would You Like To Attain Orgasm More Easily?

If you have trouble reaching orgasm during sex or masturbation, you can explore the secrets reaching orgasm now and help yourself to enjoy sex and masturbation much more. There's also plenty of advice for anyone who's not yet enjoyed an orgasm: How to reach orgasm - easily!

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Stop the shame and embarrassment of premature ejaculation within weeks with this simple and powerful treatment program. Develop complete control of your ejaculation and make sex much more pleasurable with better orgasms and greater satisfaction for your partner with control of premature ejaculation.

Men: Beat Retarded Ejaculation and Ejaculate Easily During Sex!

Retarded ejaculation means a man finds it difficult to ejaculate during sex. This problem can be cured quickly and easily at home with a simple treatment program. This unique cure is a powerful treatment for retarded ejaculation!

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Orgasm Myths

Orgasm Myth or Fact?

  • Myth or Fact: "Women don't masturbate"
  • Myth or Fact: "When a woman says "no", she really means maybe; she's just not warmed up enough"
  • Myth or Fact: "Penetration is required for a woman to achieve orgasm"
  • Myth or Fact: "Lots of foreplay will improve her changes of having an orgasm"
  • Myth or Fact: "All women like it hard and fast"
  • Myth or Fact: "Women need to reach orgasm to enjoy sex"
  • Myth or Fact: "Vaginal orgasms are better than clitoral orgasms"
  • Myth or Fact: "If a woman cannot have a vaginal orgasm, then something's wrong with her"
  • Myth or Fact: "All women can squirt"
  • Myth or Fact: "All women want a G-Spot Orgasm"
  • Myth or Fact: "It's more difficult for women to reach orgasm than it is for men"

Write Down Your Answers and Post as Comments

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Last Longer In Bed - Lesson 2

Sex Positions

In an intimate and emotionally open sexual relationship, the role of more dominant and more submissive partner may alternate between the man and the woman. Each partner can be comfortable with whatever a particular sexual position demands of them. For example, during man on top sex the woman is not so much passive as receptive, opening up to her man while he's in a position that seems to imply the more dominant or more "active" role. By contrast, woman on top sex suggests that the woman takes over the role of the more active partner; she is literally "on top" and in control of the rhythm and pace of the couple's sexual activity. And, just as the woman's movements are somewhat limited when her partner is in the man on top position, so his movements are more limited when she is riding high! Side by side sex tends to be more equal - it looks and feels like an act of mutual love and respect, where communication and intimacy between two people is reflected in long, slow lovemaking, albeit with deep penetration and powerful orgasms.

Man on top: the missionary position - uncomplicated, satisfying sex

The legend is that the man on top or missionary position, with both partners lying down, was named after white missionaries by Pacific Islanders, who saw the white men and women having sex in the man on top position - the only one the missionaries deemed acceptable. Apparently the islanders preferred to have sex in the woman on top position, with the woman squatting. Whether that's true or not, man on top is still as popular now as it was then, and of course for very good reason, since it offers great intimacy, the opportunity to kiss, to maintain eye contact, and to have close physical contact between all the most erogenous and sexually sensitive parts of the body.

Best of all, perhaps, from the man's point of view, is that he can move his pelvis freely, and so has great control over the depth and pace of his thrusting. Generally his penis will be at a very comfortable angle when it enters his partner's vagina, and and he can control his pelvic thrusts, making them as deep or shallow as he and she want. The fact that he can change the speed and depth of his movements means that he can find exactly what gives both he and his partner the greatest pleasure and the most powerful orgasm.

In the basic man on top position, the man lies between the woman's legs, which are wide open to allow his penis access to her vagina. It's unlikely that his penis will slip out, but taking it slowly will help ensure that he remains inside her. Men: penetrating her slowly is good for your partner's pleasure: many women love the teasing sensation of their partner's penis slowly entering their vagina just an inch or two, then stopping, then resuming its inward journey, perhaps moving in and out several times within the first inch or two of the vagina before it goes deep into her.

(It's important to respect the moment of penetration, especially if you are making slow, romantic and gentle love. For a woman, the moment of penetration is a symbol of opening herself up to her man, and she needs to be ready both psychologically and emotionally if she is to enjoy it to the full. Her partner can check if she is ready by feeling how moist she is - or she may tell him that she wants him to enter her. That's the ideal way to judge when the moment is right for penetration, because a woman can be physically aroused (i.e. her vagina may be wet) but not emotionally ready for penetration. And it's also possible for a man to have a hard cock but not to be turned on mentally - if you're a man and you've ever been in a situation where you knew that you didn't want sex despite having an erection, you'll understand this.

The basic man on top position illustrated

man on topYou can bend your arms more and rest more of your weight on your partner if she is comfortable with this.

Once you're inside your partner, you can begin to thrust gently at first, and also with quite shallow movements, moving your pelvis slowly back and forth and allowing time for the two of you to become fully attuned to the energies flowing between you.

Ways to make man on top sex better for both of you

Penetrating your partner does not mean that you can thrust away regardless of her wishes, needs and desires. She may experience a whole variety of feelings when your penis enters her - and so may you, of course - and it's good to take time to savor the experience and feel it fully. You may wish to keep your eyes open so that you can look at each other as you make love; that adds to the intimacy. Some lovers prefer to close their eyes and focus on what they are feeling - that's especially true for sensitive people who can be a bit overwhelmed by all the sensations and feelings that sex produces.

These days, most men realize that a woman wants more than the physical side of sex - she wants the emotional connections and feelings of being loved by her partner. And even if women's sexuality is a puzzling mystery to most men, at least we are capable of showing love and affection during sex and gaining great pleasure from our partners' sexual happiness. And it's true that most men do actually want to make their woman happy - it's very rewarding for men to give their partner an orgasm, or see her enjoying the feeling of him being inside her.

man on topIf the woman wants to move more in this position, she can raise her hips on a pillow and brace her feet against the bed - this will give her greater freedom of movement. Equally, the man can raise himself on his arms so his weight pins her down less. Both of these variations allow her to assert her sexuality more and to gain greater physical pleasure from her own movements.

If this is uncomfortable for the woman, for example if she gets squashed by his weight, or she's pregnant and can't have her man resting his weight on her, or if she wants more clitoral stimulation than the position in the photo above offers, there are many ways to vary the experience.

For a full set of pictures showing the possible variations of man on top sex, see Your Best Sex Ever

Deeper penetration

man on topA lot of sex positions books and websites suggest that this is a good position for deep penetration. However, that's only true if the man has a larger than average penis or a flexible erection which will bend down at right angles to his body even when he is completely erect. If a man has a small penis, or if his erection is inflexible and points straight up towards his face when he's erect, he's not likely to be able to go very deeply into his partner in this position.

When you're using sex positions which offer the possibility of deep penetration, it's important that you don't thrust too deep or too hard in the early part of sex. This is because a woman's vagina only reaches its maximum length when she's sexually aroused; until then, her uterus may not be fully elevated, which means your penis can hit it if you thrust too vigorously or deeply before she's ready for deep penetration.

The pleasure of watching penetration

Men, as you know, are very visual, and take great pleasure from the sight of their partner naked and sexually open to them, and they especially enjoy watching the act of penetration. So any variation of man on top sex (or any other position!) which allows a man to see what is happening is likely to prove highly arousing!

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Of course a woman may also be aroused and excited by seeing her partner's penis entering her body. But what is arousing and exciting varies from woman to woman: for some it will be knowing they are going to give themselves to their partner; for others, it will be the physical pleasure of vaginal thrusting; for others it will be the whole act of sex, especially the love and intimacy that the act of sex implies. Sexual fulfillment, too, comes from different things: some women will want to have orgasmic pleasure, others will want the sense of closeness and love; and some will want to experience the sheer physical pleasure of being penetrated.

Maximum intimacy

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pull him close man on top

One of the great things about the missionary position is that it allows the two lovers to kiss and cuddle while they make love. Whole body contact is easily achieved, as is eye contact and the luxurious feeling of being surrounded by your partner's body as you enjoy sex.

Woman holds the man close

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One of the questions which features a lot in our postbag is whether or not the man on top position produces good sex for the woman. This question often seems to come up because woman wants to enjoy an orgasm during intercourse, but she can't when her man is on top. Well, no, because orgasm during vaginal penetration is not particularly common for women - at least, not from vaginal thrusting alone. Only a small minority of women actually come just from their partner's thrusting: most who reach orgasm during intercourse do so because either they or their partner is stimulating their clitoris as they make love. Obviously this is easiest when you can get a hand or finger to her clitoris, but there are other ways in which you can produce friction on the clitoris - for example, the woman can pull her man in towards her with her legs, so that as he moves, his body weight presses more firmly on the clitoral region. This may be very effective when he moves in a rocking or circular motion rather than a thrusting one.

Man enters his partner from behind

man on top

A variation of the man on top position which can produce very intense stimulation of a woman's G-spot. Depending on the angle of the man's penis and her vagina, this may even be too intense for her. So take it gently and softly at first, to see how you both like it. The easiest way to get into this position is to start form the kneeling rear entry and slowly lower yourselves down onto the bed.

Varying the angle of penetration

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A very good way to avoid the mechanical rhythm of repeated thrusting - which can become boring and unstimulating for a woman - is to vary what you're doing by changing position so that you stimulate different parts of the vagina (and, for that matter, the penis). The best sex is fun, enjoyable, and varied, and by taking up a position during sex in which he enters his partner from a slightly angled sideways position like the one shown in the first of the four pictures above, a man can give his partner extra pleasure by pressing his penis on different areas of her vagina - some of which may be more sensitive than others.

Woman raises her legs

womans legs up man on top

By lifting one of his partner's legs over his shoulder, a man may find that he can move more easily and at the same time press his body against his partner's vulva region, which can add to her excitement in this position.

Any position which allows the man to put a hand under one or both of his partner's buttocks and pull them slightly and gently apart can be very exciting for the woman - the gentle spreading of the cheeks of her bottom will pull on her anus and add a lot of intensity to the sensations she is experiencing as he thrusts.

The same is true of a gentle spreading of her vulva, for example as he gives her cunnilingus, or plays with her with a finger. For some women, the sense of being opened up and exposed to his gaze can be a powerful and exciting experience.

Another amusing website with personal account of sex positions: All About My Vagina - "All I know about sex positions!"

More notes about man on top sexual positions

The well-known man on top position has many advantages besides the ease with which two people can get into it. Face-to-face sex positions allow the partners to look at one another, and the sight of the pleasure which one partner is enjoying increases the arousal of the other. Deep kisses in which the man's tongue explores his partner's mouth, or where he sucks her lower lip, or tongue, can add greatly to the intensity of her sexual and orgasmic sensations. Kisses upon other parts of her head, throat and body are almost equally arousing. He can also kiss her nipples in this position.

Another advantage is the ease with which the man can control the movements of his penis - this gives him some ability to control his progress towards orgasm. But this advantage is effective only because, from the position she is in, the woman can make only small pelvic movements.

Disadvantages of man on top sex - which are not very significant - include the fact that in this position, penetration may not be very deep, even when a couple lift the woman's hips with a pillow. The reason why a pillow may or may not be needed is that the positioning of the entrance to the vagina is not exactly the same in each woman, but varies from individual to individual. The variation is not great, a maximum of merely two or three centimeters, but it is surprising how much difference in accessibility to penetration the forward or backward setting of the vaginal entrance can make to the depth of penetration. A forward-set vagina (away from the anus) is the more advantageous in that it allows deeper penetration, but even with a penis of average length it allows penetration to little more than two thirds of the depth of the vagina. A backward-set vagina (towards the anus) not only lessens this depth of penetration, but it can, if set well back, cause the man some discomfort, by requiring the penis to adopt an unnatural angle to achieve penetration at all. The advantage of a forward-set entrance can be almost completely offset by the slimness of a woman's buttocks; while, conversely, the disadvantageous feature of a backward-set entrance can be corrected by buttocks of prominent contours. Placing a pillow, or even pillows, under the woman's buttocks, thus lifting her pubic area up towards the man's pubic area, can help a great deal here. (Deep penetration is important because both partners seek that extra closeness at moments during sex; it is psychologically fulfilling for both the man and the woman to feel completely and deeply locked together at certain points during sex.) Most women will, as they approach the point-of-no-return, and thereafter until they reach orgasm, experience a strong need for deep penetration or a feeling of fullness in the vagina.

When you as a couple have discovered how to raise her pubic area to the height that allows deepest penetration when the woman is laying on the bed with her legs stretched straight, you can easily and quickly increase the depth of penetration to the maximum this position allows by having the woman draw up her knees towards her breasts as far as they will go without discomfort. If she then crosses the lower part of her legs over the small of her partner's back, exerting a downward pressure with them on his back, and at the same time, firmly presses her hands, one on each of her man's buttocks, there is a sensation in both partners that very deep penetration is being achieved. The problem with deep penetration is that it makes most men come very quickly - if you are trying to establish premature ejaculation control, the answer might be to use a position where you penetrate less deeply, such as side by side.

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Last Longer In Bed - Lesson 1

How To Use Sex Positions To Last Longer In Bed And Improve Your Performance

You can’t have sex without using at least one sexual position. That’s obvious, right? Most people, though, tend to use more than one.

The average number of positions used per sex “session” is two. That may seem like a really low number, but considering 70% of men ejaculate before their partner is satisfied, it’s not surprising so few positions are able to be used.

The key point that should be noted here, though, is not the number of positions the average couple use, but is instead a much broader principle: Sex, as a physical act, is fundamentally based around the use of different positions.

Therefore, they are inherently linked to the performance of the male, each having a different effect on him and each bringing about a varied amount of satisfaction in the female.

Understanding that simple principle allows you, as a man, to latch onto a much more powerful and useable concept: Your sexual performance, arousal containment and general ability to

perform impressively in bed can be directly controlled, improved and boosted by the effective choice and use of sex positions. That’s the topic of this article, so let’s wade right in.

Position Matters

The first thing to always bear in mind when you have sex is how each sex position you use will affect your arousal control. That is, your ability to maintain an erection and continue sex without interruptions and without ejaculating too soon.

Certain positions, because of the way your body is posed, put stress on your legs, arms or other parts of your body.

This stress, caused by maintaining the position while having sex, makes controlling your arousal and holding back from ejaculation much more difficult.


Contrary to popular belief, the missionary position does not offer you much control over your arousal despite the fact you’re controlling the motion/action of intercourse. This is because, to properly maintain the missionary position, you have to support your body weight using a combination of your arms and legs.

You’re essentially propping yourself up. After a couple of minutes of propping and thrusting, the stress on your body’s muscles has often increased just enough to tip you over the edge, which causes you to suddenly lose control of your arousal levels and ejaculate too soon.

However, this doesn’t mean you should remove the missionary position. What you should do, is simply be aware of the stresses it can cause and the effects those stresses can have on your ability to control your arousal levels.

With this knowledge, you can choose to use the missionary position as the first one in your sex session while you’re most in control and least tired overall.

Girl On Top

Let’s take this principle of bodily stress and its resulting negative effects on your performance control further.

Positions such as woman on top or ‘reverse woman on top’ (her facing away from you, while sitting on you) offer you better control than positions in which you squat down or prop yourself up on an elbow or hand, regardless of the fact that she’s controlling the action.Therefore, try using them nearer the end of your love-making session, when you’re the most physically fatigued and closest to ejaculating.

These are the times when removing the stress caused by certain sex positions can prove crucial in allowing you to avoid premature ejaculation.


Finally, never underestimate the power of the ‘Spoons’ position. ‘Spoons,’ if you don’t already know, involves you lying on your side

with your legs slightly bent, with the female pressed against your front, her legs slig

htly parted, her hips tilted to one side, and her knees bent.

This position offers you massive control over your arousal level. First, because you’re lying down and not forced to maintain an awkward pose (which eliminates the bodily stress principle just described). Second, because you’re fully in control of the thrusting action, which means you can speed up or decrease the power, depth and frequency of the action.

And, if those reasons weren’t enough, you’re in a great position to lean your head over her shoulder, slow down the rhythmic thrust of your hips (and therefore give yourself time to calm your arousal levels), and gently kiss and caress her neck and cheek.

Women love men who take control during sex through the use of different positions. They, however, don’t realize that sex positions give you, as a man, an alternative kind of control – in the form of reliable arousal containment and in the overall improvement of the length and quality of your sexual performance.

Always remember to use sex positions wisely..!!

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